On Saturday we went to the house of the grandparents of one of the friends that Jodi found for Charlotte online.  They are a pretty typical Shanghainese family, and this is the spread that they laid out for the large group of parents and babies that came to their house that day.   Is this the kind of food you'd expect at a party?

Clockwise from 12 o'clock: a couple kinds of fried and very fragrant fish, frog legs, Pepsi, Shanghainese shengjian buns, chicken wings, steamed jujube cake, watermelon, KFC family bucket, more watermelon, Thai rice crackers, homemade sushi, a mix of steamed rice/corn breads, various kinds of pressed and marinated tofu, boiled soy beans, boiled taro root, slices of lunchmeat sausage, something I can't remember that involved peanuts, and boiled chicken pieces.